The seventeen categories

The skills are grouped the way life delivers them. Each category page opens with a short introduction and a checklist you can tick, and each skill has its own guide with a quick self-check.

The starter 20

If you only learn twenty skills, learn these. They were picked because people search for them most and because a small slip while learning them is unlikely to hurt anyone. Together they take about 445 minutes to learn the first time, less than a single weekend.

  1. change a flat tire (25 minutes)
  2. jump start a car (15 minutes)
  3. check engine oil (10 minutes)
  4. tie a tie (four-in-hand) (10 minutes)
  5. iron a dress shirt (15 minutes)
  6. sew a button on a shirt (15 minutes)
  7. read a pay stub (15 minutes)
  8. make a budget (30 minutes)
  9. unclog a toilet (10 minutes)
  10. fix a running toilet (25 minutes)
  11. where is my main water shutoff (15 minutes)
  12. find a stud (with and without a finder) (15 minutes)
  13. five dinners every man should be able to cook (60 minutes)
  14. cook a steak to the right doneness (20 minutes)
  15. do hands-only CPR (15 minutes)
  16. use a fire extinguisher (10 minutes)
  17. give a toast or best man speech (60 minutes)
  18. how much to tip (restaurants, delivery, services) (10 minutes)
  19. negotiate salary (30 minutes)
  20. knots every man should know (40 minutes)

A worked plan: two skills a week

Here is how a realistic plan looks. Pick two skills a week, one practical and one from the people or money side, and give each a short session. At that pace the starter 20 take 10 weeks, and all 224 take about 112 weeks. You do not need to finish; most people find the list gets shorter fast once they tick off what they already know.

A first week might look like this. On Tuesday evening, walk out to the car with the owner's manual and practice the first half of changing a flat tire: find the spare, the jack and the lug wrench, and loosen one nut. On Saturday, read how to read a pay stub with your own stub in front of you and check the hours and deductions. Take the three-question check on each, and mark them learned once you could do them without the page open.

If you want quick wins first, 6 of the skills take under ten minutes. The checklist has a filter for them.

How to actually learn a skill, not just read about it

Reading is the first step, not the whole thing. Each skill page is laid out to be read once and then used on the job: the direct answer at the top, the steps in order, the mistakes people make, and where it matters, a box that says exactly when to stop and call a professional. The best way to learn is to do the task once while the page is open, then do it again later without it.

For anything involving first aid, take a certified class. The pages on hands-only CPR, helping a choking adult and stopping heavy bleeding are refreshers. Practice on a manikin with an instructor is what makes you ready.

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Where to go next

The other guides go deeper on the areas people ask about most: car skills, being handy around the house, the tools worth owning, meals to cook, tying a tie, health checkups by age and the printable checklist. Or start today with today's skill.

Sources

Last checked September 28, 2026. Everything here is in our own words. Where a professional who can see your situation, or current official guidance, says something different, follow them.

Frequently asked questions

What skills should every man have?

The ones that come up in ordinary life: keeping a car running, fixing small things at home, cooking for yourself and others, handling money and paperwork, basic first aid, looking after your health, and getting on well with people at work and at home.

How long does it take to learn all of them?

Most skills take between ten minutes and an hour to learn the first time. At two skills a week you will cover the starter 20 in 10 weeks, and the same steady habit gets you through all 224 in about 112 weeks.

Do I need to learn every skill on the list?

No. Tick what you can already do, learn what your life needs now, and keep the rest for when it comes up. A first apartment, a first car and a new baby each have their own bundle of skills.

Why are some classic list items missing?

Some skills that show up on other lists are left out because a text guide cannot teach them safely. Where a skill needs hands-on training, the right place to learn it is a class with an instructor.